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Don’t try to complete me. Just take my hand and walk with me.

Dr. Paras
Dr. Paras
Feb 17, 2017
Relationships by Dr. Paras

So that day I came across a quote that meant that we do not need anyone to complete us. Now this got me thinking. All our lives we keep telling ourselves that this void we feel inside us would go away once we find that someone special who would come and complete us. But is it really so? Do we really need someone else to come and fill the void in our personality that we ourselves have failed to fix up till now? We somehow over the course of all these years tend to harbor so many expectations from someone we will hardly ever meet. This is what causes all the problems in relationships. We expect someone else to come and fix our broken pieces together. These high standards of expectations from a stranger is the root cause of all the hurt, disappointment and dependency.

Companionship is important but harboring too many expectations from a relationship can have detrimental effects.

We have a fixed criteria

The biggest problem, if you sit and think for a while, is that before we even meet someone, we create this judging criterion in our minds. If the person, somehow fails to meet it for some reason, we move on saying that the relationship would not work. Not all ridges are meant to be filled. Not all locks are meant to have their keys. Everyone is made differently. Instead of asking someone to complete you, you can ask them to share your incompleteness with you. Instead of making the relationships too difficult with our expectations, we should, instead, be learning to live with what we have. So, instead of judging someone, let them in and give them chances to prove to you how they are good for you.

Work on yourself

How can you expect someone to come and complete you when you yourself have failed to do so all these years? The void that you feel inside you, no one else can fill it for you. Accept it as a part of your personality and live with it. Do not overburden a relationship with your own personal baggage. You need someone who can make the walk worthwhile, not to carry you all the way. You can do that on your own when the need arises. A helping hand, someone who listens to you, and can make you smile that is all you need to make it work. Expecting someone to come and solve your problems is expecting too much. We all are fighting battles of our own and deep inside we all are suffering. All we need is someone who would walk with us to make the path easier while we try to fix our own problems on our own.

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Life is tough and fighting the one who is meant for you is even tougher. Do not over complicate things just because you think that you are not strong enough. You are. You just need to have faith in yourself. All you need is someone’s company and you will be good enough to fight your battles on your own.

So what are your views after reading the blog? Do you think you need someone in your life to complete you or you think you are enough for yourself? Companionship is important but harboring too many expectations from a relationship can have detrimental effects. If we let our past and personal wounds overshadow our relationships we would never learn to grow out of them. What are your thoughts on this? Do let us know in the comments below.

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