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Transformation and Success (Part-2)


Col. Deorat Pagay
Col. Deorat Pagay
Oct 17, 2022
Transformation and Success (Part-2)

Success Mindset

A success mindset is a powerful tool that can help to transform your life. By setting your sights on success and taking action towards achieving your goals, you can create lasting change in your life. Having a success mindset means believing in yourself and your ability to achieve your dreams. It means being willing to put in the hard work required to reach your goals. And it means having faith that you will ultimately achieve success.

If you want to create lasting change in your life, it is important to develop a success mindset. When you believe in yourself and your ability to achieve great things, you are much more likely to take the necessary actions to reach your goals. If you are willing to work hard and stay focused on what you want to achieve, you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Remember, having a success mindset is the first step towards achieving positive transformation in your life.

Success mindset allows flexibility to see different possibilities and steps to achieve a goal. It helps to figure out how to make things happen despite all odds. Coaching is a good way to develop a success mindset. It helps you understand reality.

Three Aspects of Success Mindset -

(a) Growth Mindset – Our efforts and attitude determine our abilities. Failures give you an opportunity to grow.

In order to have a successful mindset, it is important to have a growth mindset. This means that you are always looking for ways to improve and grow as a person. A growth mindset is essential for any effective transformation.

One of the most important aspects of a growth mindset is the willingness to learn from mistakes. It is important to be able to take failure as a learning opportunity instead of being discouraged by it. By viewing failures as learning opportunities, you will be more likely to achieve success in the long run.

Another important aspect of a growth mindset is having a positive attitude. It is important to believe in yourself and your ability to improve. Having a positive attitude will help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.

The last aspect of a growth mindset is persistence. It is important to keep pushing forward even when things are tough.

(b) Self-awareness – It is impossible to have a success mindset without self-awareness. It is good to ask yourself, what can I do differently? What did I learn from the situation? How am I growing?

Inward-looking propensity for success helps individuals tap into their personal power and create lasting change. When we focus on achieving our goals, we are more likely to take the steps necessary to make them a reality. A success mindset enables us to see opportunities where others see only obstacles. It is a positive force that propels us forward, empowering us to create the life we desire.

When we adopt a success mindset, we open ourselves up to limitless possibilities. We no longer believe that our current circumstances are permanent or that we are powerless to change them. Instead, we view our challenges as opportunities to grow and learn. We believe in our ability to overcome any obstacle and achieve our dreams. This inner strength and belief is what allows us to take risks, push boundaries, and ultimately achieve success.

(C) Positivity & Optimism – Believe in the positive possibilities for yourself. It is not blind optimism.

No matter what goals you have in mind, a success mindset is key to achieving them. Whether you're looking to make a career change, get in shape, or improve your relationships, thinking positively is the first step to effective transformation.

When you have a positive outlook, you're more likely to take action and persevere when obstacles arise. You'll also be better equipped to handle setbacks and see them as opportunities for growth. A success mindset doesn't mean that you'll never experience negative emotions or that difficult times won't exist. But it does mean that you'll approach challenges with confidence and a belief that you can overcome them.


The ability to be self-aware is one of the most important skills you can possess on your journey to transformation and success. It allows you to see yourself clearly, understand your motivations and triggers, and make choices that are in alignment with your highest goals.

Self-awareness is not something that you are born with, but rather it is a skill that you can develop through mindfulness and introspection. As you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, you will be able to gain greater insight into who you are and what you want to achieve.

If you are wanting to create lasting change in your life, then developing self-awareness is essential. By increasing your self-awareness, you will be able to make better choices that will lead you closer to your goals.

How to improve self-awareness

Self-awareness is one of the most important skills that you can develop in your lifetime. It is the ability to know and understand yourself, including your strengths, weaknesses, values and motivation. It is also the foundation for setting and achieving personal goals and building successful relationships.

There are many benefits to improving self-awareness, including transformation and success. When you have a better understanding of yourself, you are able to make changes in your life that lead to lasting positive results. You are also better equipped to manage stress, overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

Self-awareness is critical for anyone who wants to make a transformation in their life - whether it's quitting a bad habit, starting a new business, or anything else. Without self-awareness, it's impossible to know what needs to change or how to change it.

Fortunately, there are some simple things you can do to improve your self-awareness. 

Self-awareness is critical for transformation and success. Here are some ways to improve self-awareness: 

  1. Pay attention to your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. What are you thinking? What are you feeling? What’s going on in your body?
  2. Notice the impact of your thoughts, emotions, and behavior on others. How do your words and actions affect people around you?
  3. Reflect on your strengths and weaknesses. What are you good at? What do you need to work on?
  4. Identify your values and goals. What’s important to you? What do you want to achieve?
  5. Examine assumptions & biases. Why do you believe what you believe? Are there other ways to look at the situation?
  6. Seek feedback from others.

Proven Benefits of Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the foundation of personal transformation and success. It’s the quality of being aware of your own thoughts, emotions, and actions in the present moment.

Self-awareness allows you to see yourself objectively and make necessary changes to improve your life. When you’re self-aware, you have a better understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. You can use this knowledge to set realistic goals and achieve them.

Self-awareness also helps you manage your emotions more effectively. When you know how you’re feeling, you can make choices that are in line with your values and goals. This leads to greater satisfaction in all areas of life.

Overall, self-awareness is essential for creating a happy and successful life. It gives you the ability to grow and change in positive ways.

It will make us more proactive, boost our acceptance, and encourage positive self-development.

Self-awareness allows to see things from others perspective, practice self-control, work creatively and productively, and experience pride in ourselves and our work as well as general self-esteem. It will make you better at your job, better communicator at workplace, and enhance our self-confidence and job-related wellbeing.


Success can be a transformation, and it can be something that we strive for. It is often thought of as a destination, but success is not a place. It is not something that we can find on a map or in a book. Success is something that we make for ourselves.

We often think of success as an end goal, but it is really a journey. The road to success is different for everyone, but there are some commonalities. We all have to start somewhere, and we all have to put in the hard work. There are no shortcuts to success.

The most important thing to remember about success is that it is possible for anyone who wants it badly enough. No matter where you come from or what your circumstances are, you can achieve success if you are willing to work for it.

Transformation and success strategies

In order to attain personal growth, it is important to set personal growth strategies in place. Below are some growth strategies examples that can help assist your personal development and growth journey to grow stronger in all areas of your life –

  • Strong Will power – Gives strength and resilience to manage obstacles effectively.
  • Active Listening - Paying specific attention to others will allow others to see the value that you hold about their opinions.
  • Avoid Limiting Beliefs - Identifying your limiting beliefs, overcoming them and reinstating how you can positively achieve your dreams and goals is essential.
  • Develop Personal Skills - Personal growth is through developing personal skills and acquiring new skills.
  • Learn from mistakes - Our experiences have meaning, and it is important to think positively from the negative situations in order to move forward throughout life and achieve personal growth.
  • Get out of your comfort zone - Comfort zones block one’s ability to experience change, gain new skills and grow as an individual.
  • Stress management - Managing stress is important as it allows individuals to become more productive, resilient, happier and healthier.
  • Set SMART Goals- When you set goals, a clear path of your end objective can be seen.
  • Growth Mindset – Have an attitude to develop your personal skills and other key areas. This will ensure that you are working towards growth.

“Adaptability is the key for transforming yourself from the ordinary into extraordinary” -   Colonel Debu Pagay

The value of coaching for Individuals and Organizations

Coaching can have a profound impact on individuals in their personal and professional lives. The benefits can be immediate and continue to pay dividends over the years.

In a world where change is the only constant, many individuals and organizations are turning to coaching as a way to help them adapt and thrive. Coaching is a powerful tool that can help people achieve their goals and live their best lives.

There are many benefits of life coaching for individuals. Coaches can help people set and achieve goals, develop better habits, improve their relationships, and overcome obstacles. Coaching can also help people manage stress and anxiety, become more self-aware, and learn how to cope with difficult situations.

Coaching is also beneficial for organizations. Coaching can help organizations develop strategies for growth, create positive work cultures, and improve employee productivity. Coaching can also help organizations manage change, handle conflict, and resolve problems.

Key areas of growth in individual coaching

  • Self - awareness - A significant area that helps an individual in coaching is introspection. This is a foundational skill required for personal growth and development. Once this is in place, the individual can get a deeper insight into what they want in life.
  • Resilience - It helps in increasing stress tolerance. This decreases the burnout and improves overall satisfaction.
  • Collaboration - People are better able to understand the motivations and underlying commitments of everyone in the group. This reduces conflict and improves confidence in decision making. Individuals contribute more effectively to the team.
  • Self-efficacy - The main components of self-efficacy are learning through others experiences and being affirmed by the people you trust. These factors are key building blocks in coaching.
  • Communication - Coaching has a beneficial effect on communication skills. Developing effective communication skills positively impact all areas of their lives.
  • Work life balance - This empowers them to maintain a better work-life balance. There is improved self-care and greater alignment with their goals.
  • Increased mental health - Life satisfaction, purpose and social connections improve. These along with emotional regulation, reliably improve the mental health of coaching participants.

Benefits of coaching in organizations

Organizations are always looking for ways to improve performance and achieve success. One way to do this is through coaching. Coaching can help employees at all levels of an organization to develop the skills and knowledge they need to be successful.

There are many benefits of coaching in organizations. Coaching can help employees to better understand their roles and responsibilities, identify areas for improvement, and set goals for their development. Additionally, coaching can help employees to build relationships with their supervisors and colleagues, and improve communication and teamwork skills.

Organizations that invest in coaching often see transformed employees who are more engaged, productive, and successful. If your organization is looking for ways to improve performance, consider investing in coaching.

Here 5 benefits that coaching can bring to organizations:

  1. Improved communication: Coaching can help employees learn how to communicate more effectively with each other and with customers.
  2. Greater clarity and focus: Coaching can help employees identify their goals and develop action plans to achieve them. This leads to greater clarity and focus, which can translate into improved productivity.
  3. Increased creativity and innovation: Coaching can help employees tap into their creativity and come up with new ideas. This leads to increased innovation in the organization.
  4. Improved team performance: Coaching can help team members work together more effectively and efficiently. This leads to improved team performance.
  5. Greater self-awareness. Coaching can help individuals and organizations become more aware of their strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement. This greater self-awareness can lead to more personal and professional growth as well as increased organizational success.

Military lessons beneficial for Coaching

Military training is valuable because it provides an intellectual insight for success in every sphere of life. It contributes to building stable relations, encourages reflection, and develops a capacity of risk taking. 

Key Takeaways are –

(a) Discipline and self-control:- Discipline and self-control are two of the most important traits a person can have. Discipline is the practice of obeying rules or a code of behavior. Discipline helps you build tenacity and perseverance. It is about learning and applying intentional standards to achieve meaningful objectives. Discipline requires self-control, which is the ability to stay focused on your goals no matter what temptation or obstacle gets in your way.

(b) Self-control - is the ability to control one’s emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations. It is about willpower, composure, and self-restraint. Possessing self-control is a skill. It needs practice and restraint. It involves three types of control, namely, emotional control, impulse control, and movement control. Self-control helps us in making healthy and positive choices. These traits are essential not in the military only but in any sphere of work. An individual who lacks discipline and self-control will not be successful in achieving the desired outcome. 

(C) Excellence as a habit- ‘Pursue excellence’ - In the Military, we were always in pursuit of excellence. Whatever we did whether it was training, battle craft, routine physical and administration duties, I was taught to excel. A job well done is half the battle won.! There are no shortcuts to excellence; it is something that must become a habit. There is no room for complacency in the pursuit of excellence. You must constantly strive to improve yourself and reach new levels. This takes hard work and dedication, but it is well worth the effort.

When you achieve excellence, it not only motivates you but also becomes a source of inspiration for others. Excellence is nothing but the flair of being extremely good. It is an art that one can develop through consistent training and habituation. One has to have a passion to excel. It is a choice. Excellence helps in building trust and loyalty. It binds an organization together. Trust and loyalty are very important in the coach-client relationship. In order to be successful, you must pursue excellence. Excellence is not something that can be achieved overnight; it takes time and practice. 

(d) There is no “I” in teamwork. (It’s a client-coach relationship) - In the Military, there are teams that perform on the Battlefield. The size varies but it is always Teamwork. It is the Team that gets the credit and not the Team Leader. The same is applicable to the coach-client relationship. It is a partnership in which the coach helps the client identify and achieve their goals. The coach provides support, feedback, and guidance, while the client does all of the hard work.

The coach-client relationship is not about the coach telling the client what to do. It is about helping clients find their own way and providing them with the tools they need to succeed. The coach must be patient and understanding, and be able to adapt to each individual client. As is the motive of teamwork in the Military, the motive behind the coach-client relationship is to help the client become their best self. There is no "I" in teamwork, and it is this spirit of cooperation that makes the coach-client relationship so successful.

(e) Preparedness - Preparedness is a responsibility. Being more prepared  makes you resilient and the advantage of having an edge.  Being prepared can mean the difference between success and failure. It ensures better communication and management. Preparedness generates self-confidence in the team members which creates a safer work environment. It also helps minimize losses, a crucial aspect of the Military.

Planning and Preparation for what we are wanting to achieve. Just like a coach prepares his or her team for a game, we must prepare ourselves mentally and physically for what lies ahead. The best way to do this is by setting goals and taking small steps each day to reach them. Preparedness isn’t just about being ready for a natural disaster or emergency situation. It’s about being ready for anything life throws our way – good or bad.

(f) Improvisation is the key – “Everyone has a plan unless you get hit in the mouth” - Mike Tyson.  Think about one of your favourite people. What makes them so great? Chances are, they're really good at improvisation. They can listen to what's happening around them and create something new at the moment. This skill is essential for a happy life. 

When you're improvising, you're flexible and open to change. You're not attached to a specific outcome, and you're able to respond to whatever comes your way. 

Adaptability is key in relationships, work, and all other areas of life. When something doesn't go according to plan, improvisation allows you to stay calm and find a solution. It's also a great way to have fun. When you're improvising, you're living in the moment and enjoying the experience for what it is. There's no need to worry about the future or the past.

(g) Results matter - Results speak - When looking back on my life, I have come to the realization that the things that mattered most were the results I achieved. This was true when I was in the Army and it is true now as a coach. I was training my Armoured Squadron for the Annual Firing Competition in Rajasthan. There were three squadrons participating and only one would be chosen to represent the Regiment.  I knew that if I did not achieve the desired results, I would be replaced. The same is true for a coach. If the coach-client team does not win or reach its potential, it will be replaced. This is why it is important to focus on the task at hand and not get side-tracked by things that are not important. Stay focused on what you need to do to achieve your goals and don’t let anything stand in your way. The bottom line is that your results will speak for you.

Question Yourself!

While undertaking any task, I always question myself about the desired outcome, my capability, resources available to me, strategy and action plan and the likely obstacles in the path. These questions help you focus on your desired outcome or a goal and bring clarity of vision. Here are some questions I always ask myself.

Q: What do you want?

A: The outcome should be stated in the positive. It should be tangible, time bound and  achievable.

Q. - What will change? What is my ‘Why’?

A. – Visualize the final outcome. Go into the future and look back in the present. It will define your purpose and you will start the process of transformation.

Q. - What resources do I have?

A. – List out your physical, financial, social and strategic resources.

Q. – What are the likely obstacles?

A. - Carry out an in-depth study of the likely hindrances that can  distract and divert you from the path of desired outcome.

Q. – What is the action plan?

A.- Make a detailed list of ‘To Do’ points and arrange them in a logical sequence.


In conclusion, it is evident that transformation and success go hand-in-hand. When an individual is willing to change their thinking, attitude, and behaviors, they open the door to success. It is important to remember that success is not a destination, but a journey. The key to sustaining success is to continue growing and evolving as a person.


Col. Deorat Pagay


Col. Deorat Pagay

ICF Certified Coach(PCC), NLP Practitioner, Life and Mindfulness trainer and coach, Human Personality Evaluator and Ex-Army Psychology Trainer at The Roaring Forte.

A Retired Armoured Corps Officer (Indian Army) with 30 plus years of experience in administration, public relations and personnel assessment and recruiting . Has been an Human Personality Evaluator in Services Selection Boards (SSBs) for selection of Potential Officers for the Indian Armed Forces.

Specialties: Personality Assessment, Recruitment and Selection.


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