“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” ― Michel de Montaigne.
Confidence influences our lives in ways we never would have expected. It impacts our attitude towards work, our goals, and the journey we take towards success. People often say that confidence has the potential to make or break a situation and that’s 100% true.
A stride taken with confidence has the potential to transform the outcome of a project you are too scared to take up. But, many of my clients enquire about ways to boost self-confidence. There’s no doubt that coaching and counseling do magic.
But, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques can be a complete game-changer. Developed by Richard Wayne Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s, this technique utilizes three factors that influence human experience – neurology, language, and programming.
This blog will walk you through the top tricks of how NLP is used to boost one’s self-confidence.
NLP Techniques to Boost Self-Confidence
If you are one of those people that easily succumbs to the fear of rejection, criticism, and failure, NLP can optimally pull you out of that negative headspace and allow you to explore your true potential with maximum confidence.
1. Imagine and Write Your Life’s Vision
Irrespective of where you are in your life, you likely have dreams and goals you wish to achieve in your life. Everyone has a perception of what they want their future to look like.
The first step in the NLP practice for self-confidence is to imagine and write down the story of your life – from the day you were born to how it is today.
This list should include the highs and lows, the good and bad, and the memorable experiences that have taken permanent residence in your mind. Lay down everything that plagues your mind, from your past, present, and the visions you have for your future.
As you progress by putting down your imagination and life story on a piece of paper, you will realize how things have unfolded in your life. You will realize the true potential you hold and haven’t yet tapped into.
2. Feel What you Wrote
As you write down your life story and you notice this loving and successful person laid out on the piece of paper, you will begin to identify the good qualities in you that you once pushed to the side or avoided acknowledging.
When you read through each line and reflect on the small wins that the past you have achieved, you feel a jolt of confidence and pride running through you.
This is the emotion you need to hold on to and make the most out of. You might not realize this now but witnessing this sudden burst of confidence also keeps you inspired to grasp onto opportunities that you have been letting go of until now.
3. Shift your Perspective
As you look back on your past self and the person whose story you have written out in front of you, it's time to take a step back and observe for some time.
Ask yourself what your past self thinks about the current you or what would they think about the future you? Would they see the amazing qualities that you foster or look down on you because you decided to let go of the opportunities because of your lacking self-confidence?
This isn’t a moment of judgment. It's where you relax and indulge in a mindful experience to get the answers to the questions that are swirling in your mind. As you mindfully experience these answers, you will feel an inflow of positive energy coursing through your body.
This is a part of the “Content Reframe” NLP technique. If your self-confidence is affected because of the bad experiences you harbor in your life, this technique can completely change the course of the wheel.
The technique allows you to retrain your mind into viewing bad situations in a different light, pulling you away from the hopeless situations that plague your mind and thought process. If your lacking self-confidence is a direct consequence of trauma, this technique can shift your perspective into a positive light.
4. Shift in Beliefs
Most people struggling with self-confidence issues have the root of their trouble in their childhood. It's what the people around them, the society around them have told them that has ingrained its spot in their minds, muttering a constant mantra of, “You are not good enough.”
Our personal beliefs become a part of the worldview. I am not saying every belief is negative but most of them influence your degree of confidence. Such beliefs create bad behavior patterns that alter relationships with ourselves and with the people around us.
NLP directly reprograms these beliefs in a positive light, creating a shift in what a person thinks about themselves and the work they do. It helps you revise the way you perceive the world around you and enable you to act in a more positive way.
5. Relieve Stress and Anxiety
Unstable mental well-being is a key contributor to poor self-confidence. If you are constantly stressed or anxious, it takes away your opportunities.
Lack of self-confidence often stems from feelings of hopelessness, which is something NLP works to eliminate. With NLP, one can analyze what they are thinking on a conscious and unconscious level to make better decisions later.
NLP also explores the behavioral patterns that contribute to stress and anxiety, further helping relieve them. Once you have a healthy way of managing these mental health markers, you are more likely going to see yourself in a positive light, one that doesn’t make you feel inferior or weak compared to the world around you.
When you are stuck in a low and vulnerable space in your life, everything around you will feel like it's conspiring against you. It doesn’t take long until you turn yourself and your mind into your biggest enemy.
NLP, although underrated, has the power to transform your life. This technique is gaining global traction and empowering the lives of hundreds and thousands across the world. If you are considering a career shift as an NLP practitioner, now is the time to make up your mind.
As more and more people acquire training, the market will eventually reach saturation. Currently, the scopes and career variance are still promising. So, why wait?
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